THREE PRECIOUS WORDS |
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There are many
things that we can do to perk up and strengthen our interpersonal relationships.
Yet the most effective involves the saying of just three words. When spoken or
conveyed, these statements have the power to forge new friendships, deepen old
ones and restore relationships that have cooled. The following three-word
phrases can enrich every relationship:
I'll be there....
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick
child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you
will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there. "Being there for
another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for
other people, important things happen to them and us. We are renewed in love and
friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the
very core of civility.
I miss you.
Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and
sincerely said to each other "I miss you." This powerful affirmation tells
partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved. Consider how ecstatic you
would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the
middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."
I respect you.
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect conveys the feeling that another
person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you
will strengthen the bonds and become close friends. This applies to all
interpersonal relationships.
Maybe you're right.
This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an argument and restoring frayed
emotions. The flip side to "maybe your right" is the humility of admitting,
"maybe I'm wrong". Let's face it. When you have a heated argument with someone,
all you do is cement the other person's point of view. They, or you, will not
change their stance and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship
between you. Saying "maybe you're right" can open the door to further explore
the subject, in which you may then have the opportunity to get your view across
in a more rational manner.
Please forgive me.
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit
their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults,
foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been
in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he
was yesterday.
I thank you.
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship
of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted.
They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On
the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do
not have the attitude of gratitude.
Count on me.
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential
ingredient for true friendship; it is the emotional glue that bonds people.
Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends.
When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating "you can count on me."
Let me help.
The best of friends see a need and try to fill it. When they spot a hurt they do
what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they pitch in and help.
I understand you.
People become closer and enjoy each other more if they feel the other person
accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know in so many little ways
that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your
relationship. This applies to any relationship.
Go for it.
We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to conform to your
ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how weird they seem
to you. Everyone has dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support
and encourage your friends to follow their dreams. Tell them to "go for it."
I love you.
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that
you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs. The need to
belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your family, your friends and you,
all need to hear those three little words. "I love you."
GOD BLESS YOU!
(These are three words too, right?)